Vendetta: A Precautionary Tale About Offending Diva Designers

So, as promised, I am going to now share the rest of my story concerning the designer Zib Scaggs and what her blog and flickr post cost for me in my modeling career. Btw, I found the original drama-and-hate-mongering blog post still is up after more than 2 years. As I had suspected. It’s right here: https://zibska.wordpress.com/2014/09/21/a-precautionary-tale-of-sl-extortion/ but the flickr post promoting this blog was where most of the ganging up from people took place and where I fought back and it’s gone, she deleted it after my partner pleaded with her to do so. She never took down her blog though, so what good did that really do for me?

Indeed, she took away what I loved doing in SL, what I felt was my calling here.

First, the top name agencies Penumbra and SCALA that had me as their model came forward to me and told me because of what Zib said about me I was being let go, and that’s the only reason they gave. It wasn’t concerning them at all, yet they made it that way, they said they needed to “protect their image” and that other models in the agency were coming to them to say they refuse to work with me and even were threatening to leave the agency if I wasn’t fired. Nice. I never had any bad words with any of my fellow agency models, and in fact was nice to everyone, and this is what they do to me, stab me in the back? That just shows you what people in the modeling business are truly like.

And SOLARIS is another big agency that is run by the same person who used to run PENUMBRA who had yelled at me and said horrible things to me after she saw the Zib flickr and blog post and had as I said heard from other models protesting my being in that agency, so that’s another agency I can never be part of. As of now, and for a long time now, SOLARIS and Penumbra are the only agencies doing big fashion runway weeks, aside from FEROSH which is another agency that won’t hire me because they said it was the reputation I had.

Not only did agencies fire me, but also fashion magazines I was a model for. Style Kingdom was one of them, and they actually had treated me like one of their best models, I was very popular with them and even got to be Model of the Month in their 5th anniversary issue. They even hired me to teach a style seminar once. I was in several issues of theirs, it wasn’t fair. It hurt me so much to lose this work I loved to do.

So, basically, I was left with really nothing in the way of modeling opportunities. And also, one of the events I blogged for, The Fantasy Collective, dumped me as a blogger also due to this drama. They said to me they can’t have someone blogging for them that demands blogger copies from designers and threatens/extorts them when they refuse to send them! I have gone over in my previous written post that this was NOT at ALL what I was doing with Zib,it had little to nothing to do with her saying no to sending a review copy, but they wouldn’t hear my side or anything, as usual.

And recently, I had been running my own monthly fashion event called Epicene, and was looking for event partnerships. People turned me down left and right, except the event manager of Enchantment, Duchess Flux. She seemed even excited to partner with my event, she was very willing to do it, and she was also someone who for a long time had been frequently favoriting my photos on flickr. She and I were almost like friends, and it was all going so well until she suggested I ask Zibska to be part of my event. I wish I hadn’t said anything, because she didn’t know anything about the fight between her and I, but I said it wasn’t possible because me and her were enemies. She got really concerned when I said that, and I asked her please not to talk to Zib or if she does not to instantly take her side without hearing mine, but that’s exactly what she went and did.

The last I heard from her, she was on board with our event partnership and even invited me to blog for Enchantment, but she said she would have to talk with Zib to make sure it wasn’t going to be problem for Zib for Duchess and Enchantment to work with me. Well, you can imagine how that went. Zib turned her against me, refused to be part of Enchantment if I was going to work with them either as an event partnership or blogger, and Duchess absolutely stopped talking to me entirely after that.

I messaged her and sent her notecards and nothing. She even stopped favoriting my photos. Do you see now how Zib has been pure poison for my opportunities in fashion? And how awful of Duchess to act this way. It seems very unprofessional. But, nothing I can do about it.

Here’s yet another thing. I couldn’t get Seraphim to cover my event either, they avoided telling me why, gave me strange excuses like I hadn’t sent in my event application months in advance, when in fact I had done over a month in advance, and that my event didn’t have enough recognizable names in it. That is truly bullshit, because I had names like Zafair, Boys to the Bone, titzuki, E-Clipse, Noble Creations, Elysium and others in my first round. It doesn’t get more recognizable than that. When I asked them if it had anything to do with drama they heard about or my reputation, they claimed it wasn’t, but I think it’s pretty likely it had to do with it.

And then less and less designers accepted my invites for Epicene, and after 3 rounds, I had to close it. So another dream down the drain.

The backlash seems to never end. It doesn’t help that I got into another fight with a big name designer very recently, but in that case, I apologized and took responsibility for it. Even though, I had my reasons to antagonize this person (David Heather), it wasn’t my place to do it in public on facebook I should have kept it between him and me in private. And that wasn’t at all to do with blogging for him, not whatsoever yet he twisted it to make it sound like it was, and people believed him because of what they heard from Zib. Once again, Zib is more or less responsible for people ganging up on me and never listening to or believing my side in a public conflict/drama. I lost my 2nd Runner Up title from Mr SL that year because of the David Heather fight, and he also banned me from being able to go to his Monsieur Chic event, which is the only men’s event I really care most about.

And now I lost my crown as Mr Virtual World 2016, too, which is the worst of it all.
Well, I have to move on…the world of modeling for designers and magazines and agencies is all over for me and I have accepted that fate. As is running a shopping event. There’s not much left for me to do in SL though, that’s the problem. I mean, I can’t even find DJ gigs now no one is even getting back to me when I send in applications and I have years of experience both in SL and RL with DJing, I used to be very popular and successful at it and well in demand. Now everyone is avoiding me everywhere, whether they belong to the fashion world or not.

Ask yourself, do you think Zib took this all too far and what happened to me is not right, not fair or just? Or do you really just think like the majority, and think I’m a bad person who deserved everything that was done to him and taken from him. Leave your comments below, but if you use insulting language, like slurs and insults (like saying “you’re a whiny bitch” and such), then I will delete your comment. I don’t tolerate hate.

How Zibska got her crown back (the truth about Mr Virtual World 2016)

So recently, as I shared here on my blog that my hard-earned Mr Virtual World 1st place title and crown was taken from me by the owners of the pageant and the associated agency BOSL. I had shared with you their personal reasons they gave me about why I was fired, they gave me some BS about how on facebook I spoke against Trump, criticized porn and linked it with misogyny, and other expressions of free speech they did not approve of and saw as creating too much controversy and drama.

But this is not the only reason why I lost my crown. Before I go into that, let me first share with you a small sample of the transcript of what was said to me in explanation and defense of why they took away crown:

[13:29] Angelus Bunin – Mynx (angelus.bunin): not only about designers paradox, the porn thing, the trump thing, i can go on and on and on and on and explain how each and every single one brought drama to the comapny, to the corporation and loss of designers, sponsors and ad revenue for the magazine

Sure that’s bad enough if they fired me for that, but that’s not what this is all really about. It’s not just about me exercising my freedom of speech and talking about Trump and why I’m against porn, no no, it’s not even what I said about a lot of (but not all) designers and events caring more about how many favorites someone has and how popular they are than actual creativity in styling. There is something else, something I never shared with anyone before. A few days after I won Mr Virtual World, the owners of the pageant came to me and they told me that there were certain designers who were threatening to withdraw their sponsorship of BOSL and the Miss Virtual World Organization simply because of my win. After they told me this, they ended up letting me keep my crown if I promised not to start any drama. So you see, when they saw me talking about political and social issues on facebook they jumped at that chance for an excuse to fire me, to look like it was just me violating my contract and no underlying reasons.

Well those designers and models who came forward to protest my win got what they wanted now. But why, you may ask, was this even happening to me? I have heard of no other Mr Virtual World winner whose win was protested against by so many. Well it’s really quite complicated but what it comes down to is it all started with a designer named Zib Scaggs, whose store/brand is Zibska. We had a fight some years back, one she made very public and got a lot of people on her side with, and ever since then she’s had a personal very passionate vendetta out against me and she’s shown it at every opportunity she’s had to exercise it. She was the one who designed the crown given to me as the winner of Mr Virtual World, and she was predictably, very upset with me being the one to wear it. So much so, that she said she was withdrawing her sponsorship of BOSL and Mr Virtual World altogether, and I’m sure she talked to the other designers that also did the same because why else would they have a problem with me? They even told the management of BOSL that it was about my image and reputation for “starting drama” with designers and agencies.

Ok, here’s what I need clear up. I did NOT start drama with Zib in the first place, she did, when she made public our very private IM conversation where I said something she *thought* was a threat to her brand, when all I said was “I should tell everyone how bad a person you are”. That was it, that was all I said, and it wasn’t even something I meant anything by, if I meant anything it was just to tell a few of my friends about my dealings with her. That was the full extent of it, swear on my life. But she wanted to convince everyone she could that I was actually EXTORTING her, that I was threatening to slander her in public if I did not get a review copy of her exclusive from the event I was officially blogging for at the time.

That’s outrageously far far from the truth of the situation. It had nothing to do with that, in fact I just had a long personal history with her for years and it had everything to do with all of that. It had a lot to do with how I used to be her blogger, her very first male blogger that she invited to blog for her, and how she dumped me as a blogger as soon as she got new male bloggers and had even told me that it was because my photos weren’t good enough for her products.

That was only the tip of the iceburg of personal feelings of anger and resentment and hurting that I harbored for her. I felt betrayed, not just by how she treated me as a blogger, but as someone who used to come out to my DJ sets and be a generally down-to-earth fun sort of person but who clearly dramatically changed the minute her brand took off and she became a big deal in the SL fashion world. A celebrity who people kissed the ass of and practically worshipped, yes this changed her a lot and I was talking about that with her prior to issuing that “threat”.

People just didn’t want to hear my side of the story though, when this all went down, when she wrote up this big thing about how I was extorting her and making all kinds of wild accusations and assumptions about me. What she wrote was nothing short of slander, libel, against me as a person and as a blogger. She even said in that original blog post and flickr post that she strongly advised all agencies and magazines who currently had me as their model that they should fire me to protect their good image and reputations, as well she said my blog sponsors should do the same. Yes she said all this, loud and clear for all to see and hear. I felt helpless, victimized and all alone, even though I Had some of my friends come to my defense in the comments on that flickr post. They were largely outnumbered by all these people who came out of the woodwork to attack me, to sling insults at me and to generally gang up on me like bullies with Zib as their ringleader.

I wish I had transcripts of all this now, I had kept them but they are now lost due to a crash of my backup drive that they were stored on. I wish you could see how many people ganged up on me and the horrible things that were said about me and to me. These people didn’t even know me at all, they were just people on flickr with large followings and lots of favorites that were kissing up to a big designer so they could be in her good books maybe get something out of it for themselves, who knows. I fought back, angry words were said to them and I insulted them right back (which I regret doing, I won’t lie. I shouldn’t have stooped to their level) and I posted my own side of the story on my blog and flickr. But then my partner convinced Zib to take down her post on flickr (as far as I know she never took down her blog post which had exactly the same content) and then I was persuaded by that same partner of mine to take down my side of the story blog post so that it wouldn’t perpetuate the drama and fighting. So I did, and boy do I really regret that now.

I say I regret it now because so many people have judged me by Zib’s post for years to come after this incident, and they never saw my story since it was only up for a short time, and there are people who never saw the original post from Zib but just heard about it and decided to make up their minds about me, taking her side without ever asking me for mine. These people have been bloggers, designers, agency owners, magazine owners, SL fashion event owners and more. Her influence has spread far and wide. I have barely even grazed the sheer reach of it yet, I can tell you about what happened to my modeling career following the Zibska drama.

However, I will save that story for my next written blog. In the meantime, I will continue to keep those usual fashion posts coming, in devotion to my wonderful sponsors and the events I blog for, and also to give my blog followers some respite between reading all this stuff. Thank you for reading what I have put here so far, those of you who have done so. I appreciate your interest in what I have to say and what I’ve gone through. More to come soon, so stay tuned, and feel free to share this with people if you wish. I’ve lost everything I worked so hard for in the fashion world of SL, and I really need to clear my name and image. I feel I am entitled to this much, after what I’ve been put through and the deep depression I’m drowning in.

CCB 8 is open!

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A new round of Creators Collection Box , a unique sale featuring only the best Japanese designers and creators in SL has officially opened, be sure to get down there to find many cool items for guys this round such as this beautiful Scars suit jacket and the badass War Fans from CerberusXing.

Hair: Binah by .Shi
Fan: War Fan by CerberusXing (at Creators Collection Box 8 – new round)
Jacket: Suede Jacket by Scars (at Creators Collection Box 8 – new round)
Pants: Suit pants (Tweed Black) by Gizza
Ring: Maschil Ring #1 by .Shi
Pose: The Man 7 from The Man Set by PosESioN

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Hat: Wire Hat by Kikas Babenco (was part of an Art in Hats exhibit, no longer for sale)
Hair: Spudly by Lock&Tuft (at Men Only Monthly- open November 20th)
Chest Bandage by Tabou Irresistible (at Enchantment- November)
Belt: “Of Snails and Shells’ by alpha.tribe
Upper & Lower Leg Accessory: “Of Snails and Shells” by alpha.tribe
Pants: Rhimdr pants 3 by !gO! (at Fantasy Gacha Carnival- November)
Pose: Poseidon 2 from Poseidon Set by PosESioN

Black Hole Sun

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Hair: Sid by Lock&Tuft (at Cosmopolitan )
Eye Accessory: Rose Eyepatch by Naminoke (at Whimsical- November *coming soon*)
Chest Belt: Armor Bodybelt RARE by Gabriel (at Fantasy Gacha Carnival – November)
Gloves: Armor Gloves by Gabriel (at Fantasy Gacha Carnival – November)
Jacket: Armor Long Coat by Gabriel (at Fantasy Gacha Carnival – November)
Belt: Armor Belt by Gabriel (at Fantasy Gacha Carnival – November)
Pants (with boots): Armor Pants by Gabriel (at Fantasy Gacha Carnival – November)
Pose: Dance Like Yer Dad by Del May

Man Cave

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Hair: Curly Hair by Letituier
Coat: Fur Jacket by Gabriel (at The Mens Dept- November)
Necklace: HANNYA Chain Choker by MANDALA (at The Mens Dept- November)
Knuckle Accessory: Harahen Knuckle Ring by MANDALA (at The Mens Dept- November)
Jeans: Boot Jeans by Kauna (at The Mens Dept- November)
Boots: 4Mat Boots by Kauna (at The Mens Dept- November)
Decor: Man Cave Set (parts of it) by THOR (for SwagBag November)